Article, Human Design

Note to self

Being an emotional person is a part of me that I rejected for a long time. Funny thing, my Human Design chart is telling me I am an ‘Emotional Generator’. So in order for me to learn, experiment and practice with my feelings, here some important information on the Emotional Generator archetype;

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Birth Date (local): Nov 30 1979, 17:00 Birth Date (UT): Nov 30 1979, 16:00 Birth Place: Den Helder, Netherlands
Type: Generator Profile: 3 / 5 Definition: Split Definition
Inner Authority: Emotional – Solar Plexus Strategy: To Respond Theme: Frustration
Incarnation Cross: Right Angle Cross of Planning (9/16 | 40/37)

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 Generators

37% Pure Generators

Throughout history, the role of generators has been enslavement. Over 70% of Generators have lived as slaves for Manifestors, being kept ignorant of their true potential and being deeply frustrated from being unable to compete with Manifestors.

The new role of Generators is very different; with the natural decline of Manifestor powers comes the awakening of true potential of Generators, which is the true builders and creators of the planet. As Generators give up initiating and trying to be Manifestors, their response to life makes them capable of building absolutely anything.

Generators have tremendous wealth of energy and power, although they cannot use it directly. The key to the generator is – RESPONSE. Nothing is more powerful than a Generator who acts through RESPONSE.

When a Generator waits, they create a magical black hole that attracts everyone to them. When a Generator waits, others come over and ask them. Every Generator has a fear that if they do nothing, no one will ask them anything. But every Generator who has courage to wait, soon sees how unfounded the fear is.

Like the High Priestess of Delphi, you have to come to them and ask, otherwise they give you nothing. This is the perfection of the Generator.

The great handicap of Generators is impatience. Generators are conditioned not to wait and to be busy making things happen for themselves. The irony is that if even they succeed in attaining dreams, they remain deeply unsatisfied, because they never waited to see what their dreams were.

Whilst the Manifestors usually know what they want and actively seek it, the Generator cannot know what they want until it comes to them and they respond to it. Thus, the dreams of a Generator unravel as they go along, but they can never really know what they are until they have attained them.

When you meet a Generator who is 40-50 years old, who does not know their design, they have no idea who they really are. It is quite difficult to change their whole life to see who they really are. It can be quite uncomfortable with the new self that emerges as they respond to life. When you first start to live your design, you have to start at the surface. It takes seven (7) years of hard work to begin the process.

As children, Generators are expected to know what they want in life. No Generator can go and find out what they do or don’t want in life. They have to wait and see. They do not even know what they want to eat until they respond.

Whether a Generator has a defined or un-defined mind it will tend to undermine their response by preempting what they think they want.

Most Generators are frustrated working the wrong jobs, living with the wrong people, eating the wrong food and feeling a lack of purpose in life. The main reason for all of this is ignorance.

The Generator child has to be raised in such a way that they do not feel pressure to know anything. You cannot say to a Generator child, “go and clean up your room”. You are not giving them a chance to feel their sacral response. Even though they may say “No”, they need to feel their own response. Then, once they feel it – you can reason with them.

Generator Voice:

Generators make a wide range of grunting, squealing and mewing sounds. Thus generator children are often forced from an early age to stop making sounds and to articulate in words. This is where the conditioning begins. By being allowed these early response sounds, Generators develop the correct patterns in life, both emotionally and mentally. If they are not encouraged to express their truth in this healthy way – their doorway to truth closes and they are cut off from developing self-esteem and self love.

Generator Question 

“Will I be asked?”

This question is the deepest fear of every Generator. There is only one answer: wait and ride it out.   Every Generator has to learn to ride out frustration. They often feel that they will not be asked or asked the right question. The great irony of being a Generator is that they have the easiest opportunity to become truly aware of all the 4 types. Their path is very simple – all they have to do is RESPOND. Nothing else. If they do that, they will actually see who and what is perfect for them and will eventually understand and see the way the timing moves. The Generator is designed to move with the flow of life, taking their cues as they appear.

SACRAL CENTER

All Generators have their sacral center “defined” or filled in. This center is located second from the bottom in the middle channel. This center mirrors the throat center. It speaks without articulation and gives a :vital” response – it is the place of the “Generator Voice”.

It speaks in three distinct ways:

1)    As language when it is connected to the throat

2)    Sub-vocal sounds and grunts

3)    Surge of energy towards commitment

Sacral center source of life energy stays from birth to death. It does not require phases of regeneration and rest to recharge batteries.

This is the only center that operates differently between women and men. In a woman, its peak energy is 33-34, in men, their peak energy time is at age 18.

A defined sacral center generates a constant energy buzz in the body. It is often experienced as restless energy. Sacral people find it difficult to sit still until they are exhausted at the end of the day.

TRUE GENERATOR POWER

Generators have to know when they are involved in the right activity. They always have to go through barriers of frustration and not give up or they will end up doing something else that is not right for them. When they move through their frustration, their true power emerges. Whether or not you love it  – makes all the difference in enduring and succeeding.

 OVERCOMING FRUSTRATION

If a Generator is committed to what they are doing and have the energy to endure the time of frustration, and the patience – a metamorphis will come.

A Generator never realizes when this happens – it just happens. The period of enduring can be short or long. But when a metamorphis comes – their skill and expertise is to take another level. This cycle continues, level to level of mastery  – this is your path – the level of mastery over something.

It is essential Generators understand the feeling of “feeling stuck” and that it is a very natural part of their lives. It is because they generate and do not manifest. Allow the feeling of “stuck” and do not become frustrated.

Another way to avoid frustration is to allow for sacral sound language (Generator Voice). This is the ancient language before mutation development of the larynx. It is important to observe and pay attention to the moans and grunts you make on a daily basis, as your truth.

The other profundity is you are not able to question with a grunt, which proves that generators do not initiate. The throat center initiates communication, where sacral responds. This response of grunting and or moaning tells them what commitment is right for them.

The moment that they try to initiate, they lose all their power.

THE SACRAL VOICE

The Sacral Center does not have articulate vocabulary so it can never give a reason for a decision that it makes. This is one of the reason why other types often manipulate sacral people = because they do not trust the impulse within them.

Sacral response is so pure it bypasses all awareness together. It doesn’t matter what you think or what you feel, the life force knows what is right for you.

If a sacral responds, “unhu” as a no response – there is no energy there to do it and they will not have the commitment to move through different levels of stuck to attain level of mastery.

The manipulation of sacral people is that they are influenced by mind and emotion in decision-making and do not allow the life force to guide them.

Sacral people are great quitters in life. They often do not stay with things because they do not answer with sacral. So many sacral make commitments that become a torment for them. The main disease is frustration with life and feeling unfulfilled.

Sacral people must learn to wait and trust in their waiting. If they do not wait to hear self in decision-making – they can miss opportunities to fulfill life’s purpose. Wait- don’t initiate.

Generators are here to attain mastery in life. Once they have learned to relax and respond, they must understand life is a journey through different plateaus. Even though they feel they get stuck, they are about to make an evolutionary leap on their path to mastery. Ironically, it is at this point that most Generators give up. As long as they begin correctly, they will have staying power to move through levels to mastery.

Relationships

Generators are not to initiate relationships. Generators always need someone else outside of themselves to initiate a response. Generators have to learn to play their own strategy. You have to learn to “FLIRT” with your own energy field.

 

As a Generator, you can begin a conversation and see which way the response moves. In a relationship, generators have to throw the ball first and then get some kind of response. The other generator will have to ask similar questions to get asking generators truth in a sacral response. They could be initiating something only coming from their thoughts and not their truth.

Many Generators end up in relationships that are very detrimental for them and cause deep frustration. This is often because they decide with their mind, who they want to be rather than seeing who comes to their door.

 Generator STRATEGY

The strategy of a Generator is to RESPOND and resist the temptation to INITIATE.

Generators should never take the first step. Action for them always arises out of receptivity. Generators have to trust in power of waiting and being patient.

All the generators power rests in their response. By waiting to respond, generators ensure that it is always they who correctly set the terms, rather than those who ask.

Generators are responding to life 24/7. The response can be a tone or simply a silent response, a feeling inside. As long as they don’t initiate – they are always on track.

A Generator eliminates resistance through waiting to respond. When a generator follows strategy, their tendency to overwork and over-commit comes into balance and harmony. They begin to feel their own life power and learn to share it productively with others on their own terms. If they ignore their strategy, they often end up in wrong careers and wrong relationships and instead of seeing life force generating and then observing it degenerating into decay.

One of the most powerful and deeply frustrating is a defined emotional Generator. These people have a wait to respond strategy, then wait again, to be clear about their response. If they trust their design, they will be deeply surrendered and a patient person.

Emotional Generators cannot respond immediately. They have to play hard to get. When they are asked, “Do you want this job?” and they hear themselves say, “Uhu”. They have to add – “even though it feels perfect now – I have to sleep on it”. This is their correct behavior pattern because they cannot know what to generate unless they have gone through their emotional wave. Generators have to get used to saying “yes, But….” This behaviour is a way of hearing, seeing, and learning that takes place over a movement of time.

Work out what resistance is. If you meet resistance, you can be sure you just initiated. The more you avoid resistance, the more you will find your self in a response field.

Experimenting with waiting and responding allows for synchronicity/ magical moments — when timing of universe reveals itself without doing anything.   The more you practice, the more synchronicity becomes commonplace. It is as though a blanket field of energy covers you and you are living fully within it. This is the flow of life – the response field.

If the door doesn’t open easily, wait and see. Perhaps another will open somewhere else.

Generators are the builders, powerhouses – the essence of intelligence and creativity.  We are not here to be led by anyone or anything. We are here to create a light field around this planet = we are the heart of humanity.

If you know how to be yourself – your aura begins to hum. It communicates in quantum world beyond thoughts and words – where we connect to the source of life.

Generator aura is that of a Buddha – yin – it declares, “I am available for life to flow through me”. It is like a hollow vessel that cannot be grasped. It shapes itself around the moment in perfect symmetry to the immediate environment.

The Generator is like a black hole, inviting all life inwards, irresistible, and infinite in depth. It is not built for speed but for sustainment. Life moves through the limitations of the gearbox for generators from level to level to mastery.

INITIATING:

There is the most “subtle” feeling that occurs when you are about to ask someone for something ~ or suggest something to someone. It is a very subtle energy that resembles anxiety. Try it and notice the sensation  ~ a hesitation, a doubt, a little confusion or fear. This is initiating  – STOP – don’t do it!

Hold your thought ~ your intention and release it to the universe. Take a deep breath and trust. Wait until a sensation or a person appears and then you can decide if you want to respond.

How does it feel?

What does your moan or groan say when you ask yourself what you want to do?

Are you peaceful?

Are you calm or in joy?

Yes? – then do it!

No?  – don’t do it!

MANTRA for Generator:

“Do not initiate”

“Never take the first step”

“No tomorrow, no tomorrow, lets see what comes”

5 Healthy Reasons to Postpone Decisions

What is Human Design?

1. The only way to get to know how things feel in your body, and to get to know the nature of your emotional wave, is to stop responding spontaneously to requests or opportunities.

Spontaneity is detrimental to the emotional being. Yielding to pressure, imagined or otherwise, robs them of their full range of experience and has the potential to create chaos around them. On the other hand, an emotionally defined Generator who has slowed down enough to ride his or her wave is a beautiful soul to be around. I hear the melody in their voices and feel the steadiness in their being.

If you cannot give yourself time to learn what your emotional wave – and emotional clarity – feels like, you’ll never really be able to envelop the true power that is you. The challenge, of course, is waiting long enough to get to a place in your decision-making process where “it just feels right.” That’s the best and the most you can do. Patience and time are your best friends.

2. Today’s “yes” could be tomorrow’s “oh crap.”

Even the simplest opportunities, such as meeting someone for coffee, can backfire. You might be feeling good about life, and super good about that person, yet find that you regret saying “yes” the next morning. As one Emotionally Defined MG said, how can I know how I’ll feel – about anything – in a couple of days. “Maybe” could be your healthiest first reply.

Social invitations and simple purchase decisions can be good places to start experimenting. Here are some possible responses to  invitations or requests:

– That sounds good. Would it be OK with you if we check in again (tomorrow, in a couple of days, that morning)?

– You know, I’m not feeling very social right now, so I’m not sure. Can I call you in a couple of days (or can you call me, whichever feels best), and check then?

3. Anything or anyone that is not for you will go away.

You might wonder why this could be a good thing. It’s all about energy. Why give your energy to anyone or anything that can’t wait until you are clear. If, in the process, it or they disappear, perfect!

An emotionally defined MG friend, who has been engaged in Human Design for almost 20 years, said that she doesn’t always have to wait to know if she’s available. At this point she has a good sense of what she’s interested in and what she’s not, so for many things she can respond right away. When she doesn’t know, she just waits. Even in email. If someone writes and she doesn’t know if she’s interested, she might not reply at all. She just waits to know for herself. If the person or opportunity goes away, so be it.

4. You Might Just Get What You Need

One of my favorite clients is an Emotional Generator. He is learning that he can rely on his feelings about people and opportunities to guide his business decisions, and that taking his time has its rewards. I coached him through a 2-year process of finding the right employee for his firm, the 3rd member of his team. At times he doubted himself, worried he was being too picky. There were other times when he realized that the timing just wasn’t right, and he stopped looking for someone for a short while. After 2 years of waiting for the “right person” his efforts paid off. It’s been a year since he hired the 2nd person and he remains delighted with his hiring choice.

5. The potential for Satisfaction Increases Significantly (Success for the Projector or Peace for the Manifestor)

I may not have a defined Solar Plexus center but I am definitely familiar with the sense of joy when my response sends me in a direction that feels good and also surprises my mind. Satisfaction is the reward, as is the realization that I allowed my body to move me, and I can trust it. Powerful!

If you are worried about hurting people’s feelings, or being a pain, let it go! This is about YOU. If someone can’t wait, or is annoyed by what they perceive as your inability to commit, this is good! They either leave your life or they love/like you enough to allow you the time you need.

 

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“How to make correct decisions using your Human Design”

In this article series, “How to Make Correct Decisions Using Your Human Design,” we are going to present the different kinds of Authority in order of hierarchy. In this first article, let’s cover a bit of a background on Type and Strategy, and why Mind is not your Authority. We’ll also cover the one Center that is the Authority no matter what other centers are defined, the Solar Plexus/Emotional Center.

When Ra received this knowledge, “the Voice” did not give him Aura Type, Strategy and Authority as we know it today. Ra received the raw substance of Human Design, which he then synthesized through his thousands of readings and teaching his students about how this illusion that we live in functions. Ra structured the Mechanics of the Maia into the “Human Design System, the Science of Differentiation” that we have today.

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Entering the place and date of your birth (including the exact time) at myBodyGraph.com allows you to create a free account to discover your Human Design. You’ll be able to access various graphical views of your Bodygraph, along with written descriptions and audio recordings.

You’ll hear Ra Uru Hu, the founder of the Human Design System, explain your Strategy as to when to make decisions, and what your Authority is – your way of choosing correctly. Learning all about this complex system is unnecessary to operate correctly; all you need to do is KNOW YOURSELF and experiment with living your design to discover how well it works for you.

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Decision-Making is Navigation through Life

Moving through life and being yourself is about making decisions correctly – deciding what to do in a way that is authentic to the being you truly are. Making decisions authentically as yourself requires that you honor your personal authority. Human Design offers everyone a simple way of helping you discover how you can reliably make the right choices as and for yourself – by being your own Authority.

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Strategy and Authority represent the surface of this complex body of knowledge in a way that anyone coming to Design can easily experiment with the System. It doesn’t take a lot of effort to verify whether Human Design works for you. Simply experiment with making decisions according to your Strategy and Authority, which can lead you to living a fulfilled life.

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One of the most stunning accuracies provided by the Human Design System is the signature of Type. By discriminating what combination of energies in the bodygraph resulted in which frequencies, Ra associated with each of the Types a special “Keynote” that represents the way they experience fulfillment. Making decisions correctly leads you to the “signature” of your Aura Type – Peace for the Manifestor, Satisfaction for the Generator, Success for the Projector and Surprise for the Reflector.

 

Mind is Never Your Authority

Not-self conditioning causes your mind to become the false authority. Your deeply conditioned mind attempts to be your authority because it is subject to the adaptive strategies taken on to protect the openness within you. Adaptive strategies such as avoiding confrontation and truth result in not being able to live as yourself.

Mind acts as a spokesperson for the openness in your chart – specifically your undefined centers, as well as bridging gates between areas of your definition if you are a simple split. You can’t turn off your mind’s pratering, but you can watch the interaction between the mind and the Centers to facilitate awareness.

When you are new to your experiment, you’ll notice your mind second guesses your Authority, which is a clue as to what to ignore or not believe. Your mind can never know what is right or what is wrong when it comes to making decisions about yourself, because of conditioning. You can’t believe anything your mind says about you!

Like snowflakes, all of us have an exquisitely unique design. Life Force Energy flows through the channels within us all from the Pressure Centers at the Head and Root, to be expressed at the Throat, our Center for communication and manifestation. Like Mind, all three of those Centers are also never an Authority in your life.

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Strategy provides the Solution as to When to Decide

The Human Design BodyGraph provides the template for what it is to be human. The kind of energy that is consistently present and active within you determines the holistic frequency of your Aura, which is you. The Aura Types may be only four in number, but there are endless variations of these four found in the world.

All Types are given a simple Strategy for decision making that allows each to bypass the conditioning of their mind and access their Authority. In this article series, we’ll cover all Four Aura Types along with their Strategies and possible Authorities. We’ll also provide example charts that you can click on to save to your free myBodyGraph Chart Library for your reference.

 

Unique Frequencies of Authority

Separated into two kinds of Authority, here is the hierarchy of “Inner Authority” and “Outer Authority.”

Inner Authorities:
Solar Plexus
Sacral
Spleen
Heart
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Outer Authorities:
Environment
Lunar

 

Common Human Design Authorities

The Solar Plexus (Emotional Center), Sacral and Splenic Authority Centers are the ones that show up most often in the world, with about half of our population being Emotionally defined. Often you will see Human Design charts that have one, two or all three of these Centers defined. Once in a while, you’ll see a bodygraph with none of them defined.

 

Emotional Authority

If you see the inward pointing triangle on the lower right-hand side of your bodygraph colored in, you know that you are an Emotionally defined being because of your consistently energized Solar Plexus.

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Imagine you are a body of water – a tranquil lake. Small decisions are like small pebbles thrown into you; it doesn’t take long for your waters to grow still again so that you can see clearly and make a decision from that place of clarity. Now imagine someone is backing up a huge dump truck to roll a boulder toward you, the lake. Boom! The boulder crashes into the lake, throwing out huge waves and shaking the earth. This time it takes a much longer time for the waters to become clear, with ripples bouncing back from the shore and mud being stirred up. Large decisions (like romantic relationships or big career moves) can take far more time to get clear on.

However, your emotional waters are never completely still – because your chemistry creates waves on its own. As an emotionally defined being, you are more like an ocean, with varying kinds of waves depending on what kind of definition you have. Because of the motor function of the Solar Plexus, you can never get a completely clear picture of decisions. When you’re feeling good, everything looks better. When you’re feeling bad, everything looks worse. You can only reach a sense of clarity over time as the waters – your emotional waves – keep on moving.

If you have the Solar Plexus defined, the most important thing for you to learn is patience, to avoid premature action that your mind or others condition you to take. The capacity to accept what is, to endure nervousness and upsets or elation without acting from the high point of either emotional extreme is of the utmost importance for you to learn. Patience allows you to experience the “wave” or swing of moods and emotions generated by the Solar Plexus, and practice allows you to make your decisions from a place of clear waters – a place of calm.

 

Types of Emotional Authority

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Regardless of the kind of Emotional Authority you have, (Manifested, Generated or Projected); you need time to experience emotional clarity throughout the depth and breadth of your emotional wave. Wait for zero emotional turbulence on decisions before you move forward on anything, as there is no absolute truth in the now for you.

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As an emotional being, you are here to know things deeply, experience a full range of emotional experiences. You are here to move forward when you are clear about your impact (Manifestor), response (Generator) or recognitions after having been invited (Projector).

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Truth reveals itself as a sense of clarity over time as you experience the myriad of perspectives from riding your emotional wave.

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What is Human Design?

A holistic view of the world

All living beings are part of a single holistic field and therefore all of us continually interact with each other and the world around us. We are not separate but are part of the whole. We are connected to the whole by tiny particles called neutrinos and we are connected to the other by aura, the invisible energy field that surrounds each of us.

If we see ourselves as separate from our environment and those around us, it is easy to assume that the way we interact and communicate is something that we can control or that can happen or not, according to our will. That every decision we make is up to us and is made independently from our environment. This is not the case.

Uniqueness

We are each part of the whole, but we are also unique. We each bring our own brand of uniqueness to the other and the world around us. This is our gift to the whole. Being different from the other, we bring something new into the world.

When we are simply part of the homogenized world, we do this in order to fit in. Our true nature does not get to express itself and this can make our life very painful and uncomfortable. This also inevitably leads to all kinds of wrong decisions. We need to acknowledge that we all have different requirements and needs. To understand your own unique nature is the first step towards self love and fulfillment.

Neutrinos

Human Design uses your birth data to calculate your rave chart, also known as your Bodygraph. This is based on the science of Neutrinos, tiny particles that carry mass and information and which determine your unique imprinting.

We live in a dense neutrino ocean with trillions of neutrinos originating from the stars in our solar system. They pass through everything leaving an imprint of information wherever they travel.

The Synthesis

The Human Design System is a synthesis of two streams of science, traditional and modern. The traditional Sciences: Astrology, the Chakra system, the Kabbalah and most importantly, the I’Ching, the Book of Changes – these are the traditional elements in the synthesis that is Human Design.

Combined with the modern science of reading the genetic code, this offers you a profound insight into how you are designed to navigate the material world.

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Higher plan of The Universe

When we say “The Global Elite” we think of the wealthiest 1% who thrive through global consumerism. They don’t care about the result of their products as long as it brings massive profit. Their agenda is New World Order with hypnotized consumers living in One Government World. This way they can stay in power (meaning they’ll keep their businesses going) and their consumers will be “satisfied” (addicted) to their products without realizing the damage they create with consuming.

However, in that MASSIVE 99% of the world there is a tiny 1% that may be the key to restoring balance to the world.

It’s not a secret society with some sinister agenda to take over the world. No. These individuals are all around us. Most of them have never even met each other. A lot of them don’t even know what’s happening. But they can all feel it. They can all feel that there is something wrong with society and the way it functions.

 Suddenly, these individuals stop caring about what brand they wear. They see through the BS of media. They tend to unite the good from the indigenous and the modern, in a new sustainable lifestyle. They prefer walks in nature and nights around a campfire over getting drunk in clubs. They desire healthy organic food over processed food no matter the taste. They see the world as their home and the people as its global citizens. They love animals, nature and every human being as they realize we are all ONE! They SEE the world’s greatest lie “you are not enough” and THIS is their freedom.

That’s why they cannot be controlled into consuming products that harm the world. The products will either have to change to be more eco-friendly and respectful to humanity or no one will consume them.

These individuals, completely unintentionally, show an alternative to the global consumerism. They show that in Nature there is everything that you need and in there, everything is free. They open a doorway to a new lifestyle where you are free from filling the endless void of your ego and you can focus on what truly matters, ascending into a higher frequency. That’s why they will shatter “The Global Elite’s Plan”

Are you one of these people? Do you feel there is something wrong with society? Do you feel lost, as you are walking amongst people who are asleep? Do some (if not all) of the traits we mentioned above apply to you? Don’t worry, it simply means that you are awakening. Why? Nobody knows for sure. Maybe it’s a higher plan of The Universe or maybe there is something else in play. However, keep in mind that you are not alone.

Do You Belong To The New 1% Of The Population That Will SHATTER The Global Elite?

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Love Isn’t For You!

Kim and I been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me. Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading.

I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. 🙂 I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all.

Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy?

Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad.

Perhaps each of us have moments in our lives when it feels like time slows down or the air becomes still and everything around us seems to draw in, marking that moment as one we will never forget.

My dad giving his response to my concerns was such a moment for me. With a knowing smile he said, “Seth, you’re being totally selfish. So I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”

It was in that very moment that I knew that Kim was the right person to marry. I realized that I wanted to make her happy; to see her smile every day, to make her laugh every day. I wanted to be a part of her family, and my family wanted her to be a part of ours. And thinking back on all the times I had seen her play with my nieces, I knew that she was the one with whom I wanted to build our own family.

My father’s advice was both shocking and revelatory. It went against the grain of today’s “Walmart philosophy”, which is if it doesn’t make you happy, you can take it back and get a new one.

No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It’s about the person you love—their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I give?”

Some time ago, my wife showed me what it means to love selflessly. For many months, my heart had been hardening with a mixture of fear and resentment. Then, after the pressure had built up to where neither of us could stand it, emotions erupted. I was callous. I was selfish.

But instead of matching my selfishness, Kim did something beyond wonderful—she showed an outpouring of love. Laying aside all of the pain and anguish I had caused her, she lovingly took me in her arms and soothed my soul.

I realized that I had forgotten my dad’s advice. While Kim’s side of the marriage had been to love me, my side of the marriage had become all about me. This awful realization brought me to tears, and I promised my wife that I would try to be better.

To all who are reading this article—married, almost married, single, or even the sworn bachelor or bachelorette—I want you to know that marriage isn’t for you. No true relationship of love is for you. Love is about the person you love.

And, paradoxically, the more you truly love that person, the more love you receive. And not just from your significant other, but from their friends and their family and thousands of others you never would have met had your love remained self-centered.

Truly, love and marriage isn’t for you. It’s for others.

By: Seth Adam Smith

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‘Whatever it takes, I will be free of this’

You say you are searching for freedom
and something is becoming worse inside you. Why?
Because a power, a force that has not been serving you
is being exposed. And it is as though there is another entity
inside your being that is pretending it is you, or with you.
But now you are discovering it is not in service to Truth,
and being exposed, it begins to retaliate against you.
Are you aware of this or not?
Everyone who searches for the Truth or freedom
experiences what you are experiencing now.
So I am asking you all these questions, what will you do?
Will you say, ‘Okay, Mr. Mind, I will be nice and obey you.
I will be a good person. I will stay with you, just don’t beat me.’
Or will you say, ‘Whatever it takes, I will be free of this’?
Then, you turn yourself over to the Supreme and the divine energies.
You surrender to them, or you follow this process
and guidance of self-inquiry which I am showing you.
Trust it. Work with it until you are free of this molestation.
Because in this life, you must transcend the voice of the serpent.
And you have all the advantage
because what you are searching for is already inside you—complete.
It cannot be destroyed. It cannot be lost.
It can only be hidden and it has been hidden for a very long time,
and replaced by the devious play of the psychological mind.
Is it time for a change?
Yes. And so change has come.
Grace has come. Also fire has come.
Don’t be in despair. Don’t be discouraged. Don’t be afraid.
Greater is the power that has come for you
than the power that fights against you.
Trust and apply what I say.

~ Mooji

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Mooji, Quote

Supreme being

Nothing does everything better than something.
I say this because we have a fear that
‘If I am empty of me as a person, how can I live?
I have rent to pay. I have children to look after.
If I am empty, how I can do these things?’
But you merely think it is you who is doing all these things.
This is a very difficult thing to convey to the immature mind
because the mind won’t accept these words.
The Supreme Being is doing everything.
Through all the bodies it is doing all this as the vital force.
But also the personal mind has an influence.
Now you must judge whether the influence of the mind,
if the involvement or so called help of the personal mind,
is needed by the Absolute. – Mooji

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